I am a 43-year software engineer veteran with children and grandchildren. I learned (the hard way of course) the importance of modeling 1) good relationship behavior, 2) kindness and 3) a purposeful life, as being the most important things one can do as a parent or grandparent.

As a manager, I never believed in aspiring for 100% consensus. If a decision needed to be made, I listened, considered everyone's input and then made the decision myself. That directly carried over to parenting.

Another critical cross-over skill is to understand your children (and employees), accept them for who they are and figure out what you can do to capitalize on their strengths and talents including how to motivate and reward them accordingly.

I am very close to my self-supporting children (who are now 39 and 41 years old) and truely love the adults they turned out to be.